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Full Idea
People despair about being lonely and therefore get married. But is this love? I should say it is self-love.
Gist of Idea
If people marry just because they are lonely, that is self-love, not love
Source
Søren Kierkegaard (The Journals of Kierkegaard [1850], JP-III, 40-41)
Book Ref
Kierkegaard,Søren: 'Journals and Papers Vol. 3', ed/tr. Hong,Howard/Edna [Princeton ], p.40
A Reaction
If you decide to marry someone because you don't want to be an old maid/bachelor in your elder years, try to actually love the person you're marrying. Not just for money or sex. [SY]
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