Full Idea
It is not among the defining features of love that it must be hot rather than cool, ..and nor is it essential that a person like what he loves.
Gist of Idea
Love can be cool, and it may not involve liking its object
Source
Harry G. Frankfurt (The Reasons of Love [2005], 2.4)
Book Reference
Frankfurt,Harry G.: 'The Reasons of Love' [Princeton 2006], p.42
A Reaction
An interesting pair of observations. The greatness of love would probably be measured by length, or by sacrifice. Extreme heat makes us a little suspicious. It would be hard to love something that was actually disliked.
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Idea 21425 We can love without respect, and show respect without love [Kant]